Im 20m, straight and currently single but dating. Ive always been really interested in butt stuff, both giving and receiving, wanna try pretty much all of it eventually, but I’m mostly interested in getting my ass licked and played with, and giving anal sex.
But Ive never had the guts to bring it up with any of my partners. Im not really worried about them saying no, I can handle that. I’m worried they would think Im gross or get turned off by it or something similar. So I just never talk about it and hope she eventually talks to me about it, which has never happened.
So how do I bring this up? And at what point should I bring this up?
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“hey, what’s your opinion on butt stuff?”
Once you’ve had sex a couple times and it’s clear that it’s not just a short term fling, then you can totally start having conversations about your kinks and curiosities. In fact you should; it’s good for a steady long term relationship.
“I am nervous to bring this up but I trust you, I want to experiment with____”
fill in blank, this kind of honesty works with almost every one.
Well about the gross part, I’ve always mentioned how I have very good hygiene with butt stuff so its not gross. Not really the first question they have when I tell them I use 4″ wide toys lol
When she gives you head keep lifting your legs too lol that’s like the go lower signal
I’m nervous now to bring it up with the guy I just started seeing I’m gonna wait a bit then try
Just be open to your desires. Be willing to have open conversation. Must be a two way street.