Hi! I come from a religious family and I’m not super religious but we never had s e x education. Fast forward to college, being a bigger girl and not confident new positions make me feel awkward and bad at being intimate . I’m losing weight and now am 270 but tall. I have a stomach and parts of my body like my arms that I don’t like. I was hoping someone can help me with this. Maybe like what worked for you? Most of my experience has been a few hookups. The more I know someone the less I want to sleep with them because what if I disappoint them. How do you get over it? Did you have a teacher? I just feel so lame for even posting this. 26 f.
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If you look at this bluntly, it sounds like you need a teacher. Someone willing to be there for you as you learn, figure things out and make up your mind on what you like.
Not necessarily a relationship, if you don’t really like the idea of that, but definitely a more…lasting arrangement.
IF you do disappoint, it’s easier to recover from that if you know that there are an endless amount of new chances lined up already.
And, oh, remember. If you ask someone if they want to teach you to be better at sex…then you are basically also at the same time OFFERING sex. And a lot of it too. What you ask for is most definitely also an offering, and a good one too at that.
Also, good job with getting rid of those extras you don’t have any use ful. May I remind you that sex can be a pretty persuasive and awesome exercise scheme?
I don’t think you give yourself enough credit for the assets you have! A big part of being sexual is you own centerness on being sensual. If you hook up with a partner they obviously can see your size and things like a roll here or there won’t matter…particularly if you are there to enjoy the experience. Strut your stuff…own it! Be the sexy sensual woman you want to be and don’t worry about your flaws…cause everyone has them!
As far as experience goes, well that comes with experience:-) . But you can do a lot with yourself to understand what you like. Get some toys and put them to work on yourself. Watch some porn if needed…but don’t think that what you see there is reality…its not. But it might give you some inspiration or ideas.
And finally, have fun!