For context, I was in a relationship for 5 years and broke up this year. I’ve been with two guys the last two months and ended up giving a rimjob to both somehow. I’m not so much into this, just too shy to say no I guess. Both started with a BJ, the one just turned around and put my face in his ass, and the other kept putting slight pressure on my head until I was down there. Is this the new normal or coincidence ?
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some people are just into it. I’m into it, though I’ve done way more giving than receiving.
but, if you’re not into it, you don’t have to do it. it can be hard if you’re shy but, if it’s not fun for you / you don’t feel comfortable / it’s not your thing, don’t be afraid to say so.
If you are not comfortable with giving a rim job, then you should not be doing it. Both should have asked you before doing that. I will say that I like rim jobs, and they feel really good. Especially, when stroking and playing with the balls and cock at the same time. But no one should make you do something you are not comfortable with. Plus, when getting a rim job I make sure that I clean myself really good before (not just a shower or wiping my bum), but also shooting water up there and giving it a good rinse.
It’s unhinged and predatory for someone to expect or force(?!) this without any communication. Anecdotally, it seems like it’s more prevalent in recent years but it’s still a boundary for a lot of people.
No it’s not normal, don’t do it unless he does it first
Porn replicates life replicates porn. Sexual fads are a total thing. In Ancient Greece, outercourse (such as rubbing genitals against nongenital body parts like thighs) was frequently depicted in pornographic artwork. In the 70’s, it was eating (HAIRY) pussy. Even sex stuff comes in and out of style.
Say no to things you don’t want to do. Just because “everyone’s doing it” doesn’t mean YOU have to do it.
For example, this year I’ve noticed that I encounter more sexual choking in porn and with new partners. I’m not comfortable with it, so I don’t do it and when someone does it to me, I respectfully tell them my limits.
it is basically because of porn that it has become more common but if u and ur partner are ok with it and so into it then it should feel sooo daamn good
I like it too but I would ask if she would do it. I wouldn’t force her down there or try to trick her into it. That’s just disrespectful.