In my childhood (i’m currently 21 years old), I have always been a pretty strange kid. I was a bit of a nerd with mom chosen clothes and very limited social skills. Female attention wasn’t a thing either. Despite having some friends and stuff, I have always felt like a misfit. I didn’t really get bullied or anything but people used to tease me every now and then, or laugh at me. Growing up like this lead me to develop an inferiority complex and low esteem. Over the past 4 or so years, my situation has changed. I got a glow up, my acne almost fully disappeared and my personality has also glown up, so to say. I’ve become a lot more social and I connect with others much easier. Female attention, which was absolutely non existent before, has also increased as I do get a lot of glimpses when walking outside (please don’t see this as me being cocky, others have told me this) and I have a pretty and loving girlfriend now.
Now you would think, what is the problem then? Well, the problem is that I still suffer from this (social) anxiety. My looks and social skills may have improved, but I still tend to act weird and awkward because of pure anxiety. I just want to part ways with my former self and become a new person but I can’t seem to do so. Deep inside i’m still the weird kid.
What advice could you give me? Thank you so much for reading until this point. I love you all and hope that you manage to beat your own demons. ❤️
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Your social skills were likely stunted because you haven’t used them as much as you should have in the past. It seems like you are already on the right path, you are now essentially just playing “catch up” when it comes to social skills and anxiety management.
Just keep in mind that you will have to try twice as hard to catch up to your peers, at least for a while. Just keep putting time into stress management and social skills and you will do fine.
This stuff takes time, be patient
Congratulations on the growth in almost every aspect of your life. Enjoy the moment. Be happy for where you are right now. Don’t look forward. Don’t look back. Enjoy! Now kicking some extra fresh air. Get a little bit deeper breath. Look at some flowers. Listen to the birds. Look at the golden sunrise or sunset. Have a wonderful day. God bless