My (26M) good friends from college are visiting my city and I am gonna meet them, two couples and one “situationship” or whatever (just good times for 2 nights) and me. They are planning to book an airbnb.
Now these people are really good friends of mine but one of my friends (the girl from the situationship), her man is going to leave in 2 days and since she’s still gonna stay for a few more days, she asked me to crash with her for the remaining days after he leaves. Both the other couples are gonna stay in the same airbnb(three different rooms)
And idk why but I am pissed at the friend who asked me this because so it’s just the money (which is not an issue for anyone involved including me), but not about me, or spending time with me, these three couples are gonna spend the time together and I can crash when one guy leaves, it’s sort of icky and it hurt a little.
I wasn’t on planning to stay anyway but I did talk to one of my friends and he asked me to stay over the full time blah blah and I was just thinking about crashing there the first night because we were gonna drink and I didn’t wanna travel 1.5hrs one way back home drunk so late in the night
how do I navigate this? And is it rational to feel this way?
thank you for you time!
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I’d say Go party the first night because they’re your friends and you want to, and feel it out from there for the 2nd. Feels like you were thrown on the back burner, and this trip wasn’t planned with you in mind. It’s valid to be upset but doubtful it was intentional. seems like an factual thing you can point out to them without real blame if they ask why you don’t want to stay.
I was gonna say you get to be the lucky guy rooming up with a girl for a couple of days but your profile told me why that was a little silly lol.
That does sound lame. I think I’d still go though, cause they still wanted you second, only after getting laid. That’s a respectable place to be in terms of friend priorities.
Tell them you will go only if you get three spit roasts, one per night and with an Eiffel Tower for good measure.
If it saves YOU money do it. If not just say you have other plans unfortunately.
Hey I can’t make it anymore, sorry hope you have a great time, catch you all next time.
^^ you tell them that.
Then you go make plans for yourself somewhere else.