I’ve learnt a lot as I grew older about partnered sex in long term relationships. Something I have learnt is that most porn caters to the male fantasy. Hence, in most situations we shouldn’t be taking these videos too seriously and trying them out in our bedrooms with our partners without prior discussion – such has throat fucking, etc.
Does anyone know where to find porn that depicts real sex scenes between couples? Am hoping to learn more stuff to try with/on my partner through these videos. Advices are also welcome, thank you!
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There is an entire category called “homemade” which is normal couples filming themselves.
Porn isn’t for education, even homemade porn is more and more professionally since it’s basically all these Only fans and cam girl.
There are some video which have an kind if guide feeling on pornhub. Search for guide to blowjob and look for something with an orange color. Can’t link them here.
You could, if it has to be porn, search the “liked by woman” categories, normally they are more focused on intimacy than just poundtown 2.0
Check out Erica lust. She is a producer with a website with much more realistic porn but professionally done. it’s focused on actually bringing pleasure to women, and the performers get paid much more fairly than in the typical industry model. There is a little bit of free content there but mostly it is a subscription service, but very inexpensive.
lesbian porn is much more likely to have techniques that women like than the typical male gaze oriented porn.
Nina Hartley has some instructional videos on the major porn sites.
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Back in the 70s, there was a book called Joy of Sex which included illustrated sexual positions and a lot of techniques. There was also a video series (maybe sometime in the 80s/90s) that depicted real couples instructing the viewers on pretty much everything from the book. Don’t remember the name of it, but it was actually really well done and very authentic/erotic. I’ve looked for it on the usual sites, but only found a clip on a vintage/classic compilation reel years ago. It was definitely geared towards couples to watch together and practice what was being taught. Wish I could find it.
The best way to learn sex is to have sex with people you trust, listen to your boundaries and keep communicating. You cannot learn the intricacies of mutual chemistry and reading the room, you just have to be in the moment, listen to your partner and be open.
There are onlyfans couples who post videos of themselves having sex unedited, you can try to find them by posting to r/realonlyfansrequests or r/OnlyfansReviews for example.
Homemade and amateur videos, guides and tutorials. You may have to search for a bit but it is out there.
Look up Dr. Sue. She had her own series about sex back in the 90s. It’s not porn per say, but she was pretty much a sex therapist, and was almost like what you would see Dr. Phil would do but without a live audience or guests.
Finding porn that depicts realistic sex is hard to find if it even exists. Most real sex does not film well. But if you are looking for educational “porn”, look for “Nina Hartley’s Guide To” <insert sex act here> videos. Nina has real advance on just about everything sexual.