I’m a bisexual woman (24F) and grinding is a very necessary part of foreplay for me with a man or woman. Super common in w/w relationships to grind on each other’s legs and thighs till we get off. I’ve adopted this into my relationships with men as well – grinding on a partner’s thigh while making out is my favorite way to get off.

But most men I do this with are shocked, really turned on by it, and say things like “omg this is so hot, no one’s ever done this before,” which is fine but it’s confusing to me. Is this not something straight women do? Is this generally a bi and lesbian thing? It always makes me feel a lil strange when guys say that, but they never say it in a bad way so I guess whatever lol. Just curious how common this is for herero couples?

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  1. I think some degree of grinding is right up there with stroking your partner’s hair as an important part of foreplay, and I’m a cishet guy.

  2. There’s definitely a lot of straight people who are sexually adventurous/imaginative, but for the most part their sex lives tend to be much more centered around penetrative sex than queer couples’ are, so there are a lot of fun non-penetrative activities that get pushed to the wayside or never even attempted.

    (Source: am also a bi woman who has dated some straight men and lots of other bi folks)

  4. Grinding I think is something people did as teenagers if they didn’t have a rubber. I developed late so I don’t know.

    I would be down for this but I don’t hump a lot as a guy because there is just more sticking out there.

  5. There are a few ways I like to incorporate grinding. because it feels good but also as a power thing when I’m in charge. after edging him for a while , it’s like this pussy is so close and you can nearly have it, but I’d rather grind on your thigh right next to it and make you even more desperate. I also love any sex position where I can grind my clit on his thigh.

  6. Its not *ab*normal. I’ve certainly had it happen with some form of regularity.

    Some women prefer to grind than to have my hand there and I’m not going to argue with the owner of the vagina as to what feels best for them lol.

  7. After sex my partner and I tend to have play with ea other. I like getting the scapular kissed and licked, she in turn gets turned on and rubs her pussy on my ass cheeks till she cum’s again.

  8. I’ve done it forever, since my first gf at age 16. I’m very tall so always have to bend way down to kiss. Early on I bent my knee and put it between her legs. Every one of my partners liked it. I just assumed it was a universal practice, but maybe not?

  10. Not common, but this is my experience so far.

    Hetero male here. While I’ve experienced grinding… I’ve never experienced a partner grinding on my leg to orgasm. Grinding for me has always been a tease to indicate partner wanted sex and it led to sex. One clear example is, one of us would arrive home, she’d be busy doing something, I’d approach for a hug from the back, kiss on the neck to say hello honey… the hug would last for a minute or two with us talking about what ever… she’d get the impulse to grind her butt straight back at me… I’d give warnings about how she about to get it… and it would end up with a quickie. She loved it, I loved warning her and then punishing her naughty ways.

    But grinding ‘for her anyway’ to fruition… I’ve never gotten that. If I do, I’d be intrigued of course, and TOTTALY welcome to it. ‘You want me so hard you can’t even take the time to take off your clothes???’ I MUST be doing something right.

    I might also have a slight ( giggidy ) fear of what might happen if the clothes DO come off!

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    EDIT: I’m still thinking of this. I had a thought. How would a woman feel if her man grinded her leg to ‘fruition’??? I don’t ever see myself doing this because the only image that comes to my mind if I did this is a dog humping. Would you women see this as a sexy thing. Shit… am I highjacking?

  12. My wife recently started doing this while suck her nipples. She says it helps her have a more intense nipple play orgasm.

    Personally, anything that gets her off is fine by me.

  13. Lol this is really funny if they don’t do it too. Is this a queer thing? I’m usually in bi/bi or bi/gay pairing and I thought it was weird at first that so many guys want to get you on their thigh.

  15. Yes it’s something I have done. But no it’s not something I do often at all.

    Some people like to think it’s because straight people are unimaginative when it comes to sex. But really it’s just a preference.

    Even when I pleasure myself I don’t grind on things because I like to use my hands.

  16. Well as a straight man, I’ve never had a woman do that. Normally my fingers are on her clit during foreplay

  17. I’m a bi girl but I’ve only been with men. Anecdotally, I’ve never done this. And idk it feels weird to me. Now I’m a little more anxious about getting with women if grinding is gonna be a core aspect of the sex…

  19. I’ve seen thigh grinding in smutty tumblr fics for straight girls lol so it’s gotta be some kinda common

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