It really depends to me. If it’s something not worth pitying or if I’m okay with it. It feels degrading to be pitied. They don’t know how to get past the pitying. It’s weird. I try to see it from their perspective but the other person just can’t look past your flaws. It’s extremely degrading. Almost like you aren’t even human. You are just your flaws.
I’ve been pitied for silly things like being a loner. This person felt like I might need friends but it felt like she was forcing her way into my life. It was almost like she felt like I had no choice but to accept her “friendship” or “help.” Like if she was doing me a favor but we were never actually friends or clicked well nor did she try to get to know me. She was just fixated on my “flaw.” It’s degrading. Like what makes someone think that the other person doesn’t have a choice but to accept their company? I didn’t want it. It was forced on me. It’s degrading.
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I cannot STAND it.
You Can have compassion and empathy (yeah there IS a difference). But pity IS by definition a sign that the other see you as lesser. That’s why while i like compassion (and usually the help coming with it) i ***HATE*** when someone pities you. For me it IS the most vicious way not to be respected.
You Can tell her that you feel disrespected, that it’s degrading and you prefer being alone instead of Bad company.