In some occasions I have to be around ~6 old men that all love hear them talking and do talk to each other. As soon as I want to bring myself in one of them just starts talking again, cutting me off at my first or Second word.
I could easily keep on talking. I have the feeling that in this case they’d just listen to the dude that already is prominent in the conversation rather than to me.
Is it my presence and how I am talking maybe? What can I do to get my fair share of talk?
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It’s a presence and confidence issue. I had that happen too, getting cut off all the time. I don’t think people do it with malicious intent, either. If you’re signaling meekness, people pick up on that subconsciously and will fulfill your desire to not talk.
Another thing that might be happening is that they’re long time buddies and you’re kind of an intruder to the group. There’s not much you can do about that short of being fully accepted. I don’t have enough details to justify that; it’s just a hunch.
What changed it for me was years of building confidence in a variety of ways, including just talking more and meeting more people. I learned how to direct a group. I’m sure there are definite, actionable ways to do it, and it varies on the person.