I’m 23, a junior in college and have ASD and ADHD. For a long time, I’ve wanted to put together a social life, something that I never put much effort into in high school. And while I have made more success than I’ve ever had in my life, it always feels like there is something missing. A lot of my friends and I aren’t really that close, I feel, and I live three states away from my campus. I have wanted to try to set up times to hang out but balancing that, my drawing hobby and my classes has been near impossible with my ADHD. And even though I have their numbers, I’m kind of scared that if I move away, we’ll all stop being in contact
I heard that you can’t stay in contact with all the friends that you make in your lifetime because you only have so much energy, and I guess that scares me. It scares me that I have to lose friends in order to gain new ones. I want to work on my hobbies and maintain my friendships but it feels like everything that I worked so hard for is destined to just crumble around me
Maybe I’m just tired because it’s the end of the semester, but as the last year closes in, I just don’t know how to handle this. What do I do?
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I can relate. I know where you are getting at, and the advice totally depends on one question.
Did you suddenly get the realization that you need to make friends? or you had a hard time finding one of them early on?
“just crumble around me” trust me, it won’t. If you can’t fit in this world, make the world fit around you. Ik it’s easy to say, but think about it.