Mary is a neuroscientist who dedicated her life to the study of female orgasm. She’s the lead scientist on that subject and can explain every single phenomenon that happens in your body during an orgasm with major details. Also for research purposes she’s part of Experiment O, where she enters a machine every evening afterwork to have a orgasm. Every orgasm is a little bit more intense than the last one, so the team can also gather information about her own body through the years and to see if something changes in her body with the objective information she’s gathering. The only condition is that she can never have sex with anyone else.
One day she enters the machine and has a breaktrhough. The most amazing experience she’s ever felt. Not just that increasing pleasure she’s been having (which felt amazing already), but something totally new. A burst of energy throughout her body, uncontrollable spasms, and a subjective experience never felt before.
Turns out she had never experienced an orgasm before, her teamworkers were just trying make her feel like she was having orgasms with intense but controlled pleasure. In her subjective experiencie this past intense pleasures were orgasms. Even when she felt the shivers, the dormant lips, the flushing that she’d often read about or watched in trials. Since she coudn’t know what is the subjective experience of an orgasm, but knew everything objective about it, she just couldn’t tell that her subjective experience wasn’t in fact a orgasm until she’s had one.
**Now the 2 important questions:**
Is that a good way to defend the hard problem of consciousness and qualia?
Do you see that as one of the reasons so many females can’t really experience an orgasm during a lifetime and worse, why so many “think” they’ve had it when actually they just felt huge amounts of pleasure but never really had an actual orgasm? Since we can’t really explain the subjectivity of the experience and there are a lot of taboos around the subject, which makes communication even less efective, a lot of women associate a lot of pleasure in sex with the experience of an actual orgasm.
Any feedback is welcome, contructive or destructive. Thanks!
(Yes, that could also happen with men, but the fact that men ejaculate when they orgasm makes it way harder to use it as an example)
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If you don’t think women can orgasm, then you’ve never seen an orgasm.
Some women may have different experiences and they won’t all be the same
So I’ll bite – F(54) THOUGHT I had orgasms, best were when I masturbated they could be awesome. But overall I was happy, thought all was good and that was the right result. Recently divorced and I had an inkling that Anal was my thing. Purchased some toys. Got busy the other night. Orgasm is not what I thought it was and yes woman can have them. The big O had me crawling the walls and hanging from the rafters…. it was explosive. Had I been male the walls would have been dripping. This is probably TMI but after a very long dry spell – 41 years. I am walking around with, a grin on my face these days. Maybe I’ll meet someone that can take the roof off this time. LOL
I believe that most women are reflective enough to have asked themselves this question, considered their personal situation, and accurately determined the likelihood that they have experienced an orgasm.
Maybe it’s because they don’t ejaculate that women can orgasm in many different ways. It seems to me you can’t compare a woman’s orgasm to a man’s because the mechanisms work differently.
I’ve been studying my orgasm for several years now and I have 3 types, which I categorize as; explosive, wave and the tornado. I understand that my body and mind are intrinsically linked and when they are in sync sexually my orgasm are earth shattering, heavenly, blissfulI, and sometimes very subtle and long lasting. Do any men you know stack orgasms? Can they have minute long orgasms? Do they have 10 in a row? I’ve never seen it personally, at least not from my relatively small sample.
Once I had a ‘tornado’ O that was immediately followed by a series 6 ‘wave’ Os. How would you measure that in a machine and what would you use as your baseline? Would the wave orgasm be considered “not an orgasm” because the tornado was more intense so it doesn’t count? They are ALL orgasms and telling women they’re not orgasming because it wasn’t intense enough is crazy. I don’t think most people understand or appreciate just how nuanced and varied the female orgasm can be.