How do you maintain actively maintain friendships after getting into a relationship?

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1. If the girl shows up in my life after I made friends with people, she’ll be a part of the friendship. Actually, she’d be a part of the friendship either way, but sometimes I do things with friends she doesn’t want to do, or I might go out with a particular friend and she knows we might need some “guy time”. But I don’t make her do anything she doesn’t want to do.

2. You talk to and do shit with your friends, its not rocket science

3. It’s not hard – even in a relationship you should have plenty of time to spend with your friends. I’ve been married a long time and I still have my circle of friends and we still do all the things we did as teenagers. Maybe not as often, but we still play cards, go to gigs and the pub wherever we can get together.

4. Use the phone, stay in touch, have group chats, arrange to meet up

5. By still doing the things I used to do. A relationship involves two people, not one, two-headed monster.

6. I make it clear from the very beginning that I won’t abandon my friends for a relationship given the fact that a lot of what I am (and what she probably finds attractive about me) is closely connected to the relationship with my friends.

7. with who girls? dont bother , useless. We get more utility form other men then women when it comes to friendship. Aquaintencess who are girls? dont worry theyll be there when gf is gone and you can get back to it.