My biggest issue with socializing with other people is that when I say no, they try to convince me to go to and do events I don’t want to do. I feel pressured and it stresses me the fuck out. I recently got invited to go on a trip to Austin by a friend of mine who I hadn’t seen in awhile. There have been a few events he invited me to and I just say no because I have other things scheduled or other things going on. I feel bad though. Just as well, I’m in a fraternity and being constantly pressured to go to things or else I’m a fucking loser or I’m missing out. They don’t get it. I’m applying to grad school in a year and working my fucking ass off. Why can’t people just accept a no as a no, and stop trying to pressure others to do what they want? How can I better be able to manage the feelings I get from how others react to my no? How do I say no while maintaining relationships?Why isn’t a no ever a no, and why does it upset people so much when you say no? Like, grow up.
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I mean, I would assume when people say yes for me, they’re going out of their way for me, so in return, I don’t tend to say no to those people even if it might be bothersome for me.
To an extent I am a little tired of the naïveté people exhibit when they operate under the assumption that they have a right to say no and have to face no consequences. Sure you can say no, but you’re going to be burning bridges. It’s just cause and effect.