So I’ve been married a little over a year now. And our sex life is… well different from most newly weds.
I have PCOS, so that makes sex painful. It literally hurts having sex too many times or for too long. But I don’t want to leave my husband hanging because I know he has needs too. But even then, sometimes we have sex multiple times in a day, sometimes we go days or even a week without. But I actually get turned on by seeing how long we can go without. The waiting and anxiously anticipating when one of us finally caves in to one another is hot. Is this wrong? I feel bad for my husband because I feel like he thinks I’m not sexually attracted to him which isn’t the case. But I don’t know if I am neglecting him or not. But before you say toys, my husband and I aren’t into those. So anything else you can recommend would be appreciated.
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That does sound pretty hot tbh. Just be honest and communicate with him if you haven’t already. Also there are other things you guys can do besides sex
You need to talk to him about this. He might share this little kink that you have. He might feel very frustrated and unwanted. If that’s the case, this will badly hurt your marriage over the long term.
Communicate, communicate, communicate. This is the key to a good relationship.
Consent and communication is key. Denial is a kind of kink and totally normal to enjoy. But he needs to know about it for it to be fun for **both** of you.
You can also incorporate this kinda thing into actual sex or foreplay. See how long you can go touching non sexual body parts and kissing before you actually get stimulation or piv. See how long it can take with him inside of you before one of you has to start thrusting (if not painful). This kinda thing.
Not wrong…no. My wife and I do this…sorta. When you have a kid and a living situation like ours, it makes things difficult. Actually everything is difficult, but I digress.
It is sorta like edging I guess. That anticipation is just amazing. Once someone gives in, you just go primal and ravage each other. yeah, I’d say that is hot.
That said, no one knows what goes on between you two except you two. So make sure you are constantly talking to him about this, even if he gets upset. Pick your battles, but you gotta talk to him.
You don’t tell him how you’re feeling, he can just as easily start thinking that your condition is just an excuse to not fuck him. My ex fiancé has ulcerative cystitis or whatever that thing is that causes ulcers in your bladder. Our sex life was shit. But the more we talked about it, the more she liked giving me head because she loved that she could make me feel that way.
God damn she was good at it too…My wife won’t even let me give her head. LOL
Anyways…talk to him and tell him how you feel in a safe and polite and honest way. That last part is hard. Good luck!