I’m that partner. Sex feels amazing to me, but I’ve never cum from clitoral/gspot/vaginal stimulation. Whenever I’m about to orgasm I usually push him off because it starts feeling too intense or I feel like I’m about to pee or I just feel like it’s taking me too long and he’s getting bored so I want to switch positions to something that’s mor exciting for him since I can tell i won’t be cumming. He’s never made me feel bad about it but I feel like he’s starting to get annoyed with me. He tells me it’s okay and to just let it happen, and when he doesn’t he says no worries it will happen when it happens. What if it never does tho, i might just be the type of person who can’t finish with partners. My ex got mad at me for this and called me selfish. i think it’s part of the reason he ended things with me (but I also think he had some insecurities in general about sex & his performance and would’ve rather ended things than try to work thru them). I’m worried my current partner feels the same which is my reason for posting. I want to gather opinions and figure out was my ex a one off or is this a common reason for ppl to end things with their partners? If it is, honestly I might take a break from dating for a while cuz Idont want to date anyone who makes me feel bad about myself anymore.
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Just once, you should keep going even when feeling the need to pee or it feels intense. Very likely you are experiencing the need to orgasm and squirt. Put down a couple of towels and give it a try! Don’t be afraid of the feeling.
You don’t say if you can make yourself cum – if masturbate. If not, I strongly suggest you learn how to give yourself pleasure – it’s a wonderful gift to yourself and it will make you understand your body and your needs better.
As for your question. Personally, the most rewarding and wonderful thing about sex is making my partner get carried away by pleasure and passion. If my partner never came, I would get depressed. But many guys are only about their own pleasure – not sure those are the kinds of guys you want or need in your life.
Deal breaker? No.
Challenge? Yes.
Hi, I think we have the same feeling, I do not cum also and I’m bothered that there’s a problem with or I lack something.