Not sure if this is the place for this or if I should wait and talk to my therapist next week lol but.. long story short I have an alphabet soup of mental issues (working on them) and I have a huge kink for praise during sex (and non sexually as well).
Last night my fwb was saying things like *”good girl”*, *”just cum one more time for me”*, *”there it is, good job/girl”* when I squirted which made it happen more because I *love* praise. But *why* I love it makes me wonder if I should be concerned on how much I love it. I have a lot of self esteem issues because I never got the care I needed to form a solid sense of self growing up so now it’s like getting water after being lost in a desert, I just soak it all up. And I want *more*.
So, from psychological standpoint, is this a bad thing to have as a kink?
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No it’s not bad. I think the main concern you may have is where this kind is coming from and if it’s feeding a bad trait, but it seems you’ve already acknowledged that so you’re fine!
It’s only “bad” if it detracts from your life. Otherwise, kinks make great ways to work on trauma and can help guide you to history that you need to deal with in therapy.
As long as they don’t negatively impact your life… It should be fine. But definitely bring it up with your therapist if you’re concerned about it.
I think that’s the most positive secret kink ever. Definitely wait for therapy to unpack. No need to stress about theories.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with having a praise kink. It hurts nobody and it makes you feel good. Be cautious that people don’t leverage it to make you do things you wouldn’t otherwise be comfortable with, but outside of that have fun with it! If you have any ongoing concerns about it it’s great that you have a therapist to talk to. Good luck, stay safe, have fun!