I’m 30F and I have never had fuck buddies in my life. I just thought it was not a right thing to have sex without love and I was quite judging for people who do one night stands or have fuck buddies to be honest.
But now that I’m dying to have sex and physical relationships, I wanna find one for myself. Still not very confident if it is right but I’m so desperate for sex.
So I wonder how you guys make fuck buddies. Are there any standards or things you check when you find fuck buddies? Please help me with your experiences.
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Usually online is how I’ve found them or at the very least phone sex partners
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My advice? Go have a drink at a sports bar, a pool hall, a bowling place? Take your girls, trust me, the guys will notice. I play billiards and guys are not that hard to convince lol
For me it’s a friend of a friend kind if thing.
You meet them at a club or bar, get to talk a bit and end up in bed. If you like it you tell him and maybe it ends in a friendship+ situation.
I’m always a bit carefully about meeting someone online but i know a friend who had a lot of success finding him some girls he likes.
It all depends on the situation.
In my past, I often went to the bars a lot. Never my intentions on seeking love, women, hookups, nothing. I just go to dance and relieve stress. Sometimes along the way, I may flirt or make-out, but that’s perhaps it. Personally, I have found my past “fuck buddies” within Tinder, sometimes school, or casual places. The one thing is, I nor WE treat each other as fuck buddies. Most of the time, it wasn’t random from the spot. Yes we may flirt, sext, send teasers from time to time, but in all honesty, we’re actually friends.
The best ones I think are close friends in your circle, or friends you might meet or make on your own time. Some you actually trust, know, have a connection with, but it can also be hard because sometimes feelings may rise. One person I know was a neighbor, cam girl, kinkster, and her BF was a brother from another fraternity chapter. We just all clicked. Good attraction is great, and not by looks or bribing, but just being yourself.
So if you want my advice, start within your circle. All of mine have and still are close friends to this day, and my number one rule is that we’re always friends first. You’ll get treated like a friend, you’ll be loved, looked after, supported, cared for, and respected.
You can always join kinkster groups, or any social gatherings that like to have sex. Maybe even find people you know who could be content creators and collaborate with them on some sexual fun. Be creative and find the ideas that cater to your needs.
Do I have any standards? Not really. As long as you’re clean(STD free) and honest.
I’m very picky but it just happens. I never went looking for it.
Tinder was how I first found mine before I had the confidence to approach guys irl.
As another poster says, sports bars or practically any evening venue guys are gonna be interested. Good luck!
For me it just happend, when I met guys and got to know them as friends in the beginning. And it was a sexual tone between us. Met them through friends, out on bars or apps.
Online.
I never do a spontaneous at the bar thing. How am I supposed to know we even mesh in bed? If I iust want some robotic vanilla sex I can just do it myself.
I’m envious of people who can find fwbs through a friend of a friend kind of thing. That must mean they have many attractive people in their circle?
I don’t find that to be the case in my own social circle. I’m picky so I take my time online. Online is where I’ve had success finding my sex-positive people, kink friendly & with the looks I typically go for.
Do it online. Use a dating app, and just do the normal dating process of going in a public space for coffee or drinks and when you feel ready you propose for sex. You just need to be clear from the very beginning on your intentions and the casual sex part.
I started chatting with a guy on a gay hookup app. The conversation was fun, so we made a date to meet in person at a restaurant for lunch. The chemistry was good so we went back to his place and had sex for a few hours. Each of our encounters has been similar. The sex is really fun.
Never went out purposely looking for one, they just happened mainly because there was an obvious chemistry sexually, and no need for one emotionally.
It’s not 1975 so the people saying go to bars have no clue.
Tinder and Bumble are the way to go.
You’ll have someone immediately, out of a pool of thousands of people rather than a disappointing crowd of drunks at a bar.
They just entered in my life. Like friends first but once my ex friend and lover put out I’m amazing it never quit I have never had a problem finding a bedroom partner I only like men but I guess the men from the west love sex the best