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Yes it is okay to kiss on the first date. Don’t worry about being easy, you are not an object. Just do what you feel comfortable doing
It’s ok. Doesn’t make you ‘easy’.
That bring said, only do anything you’re comfortable with, at the pace you want.
It does not make you an easy person (more like the other person is… 30min wow). Just do what you want when you feel is the right moment
Guys want to kiss on the first date. Women usually don’t. This is the first dilemma of dating.
Yes it is, but 30 minutes in seems desperate and raises an extra large red flag! 🚩
Him getting upset is abit of an ick, but if you weren’t comfortable yet then you did the right thing.
how soon or late into a date/dating you do something doesn’t make you any more or less easy, but that’s a lecture for another day.
Do what makes you comfortable and set healthy boundaries, if people cannot respect that or if things don’t click, move on.
me and my bf kissed on the first date but it was after 8h and he let me initiate it after dropping me many hints
Absolutely not. If you do the gates to the Nether Realms will open, the seas will boil, the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse will ride out and the dead will rise from their graves…
Seriously though? Do what feels right for you. If you’re both attracted to each other then a little kiss isn’t going to hurt anyone.
First.
Set standards and boundaries for yourself.
What do you want? A casual hookup? A fwb? A serious relationship? Marriage?
Remember that for each you still have to vet men. Your physical and emotional integrity should be protected no matter what.
You went on a low effort/commitment first date (coffee) and 30 minutes into it the guy wants to get physical.
This shows he’s not really interested in knowing you and just wants to move to intimacy ASAP. Is that what you want? If not, unmatch/block/delete.
You shouldn’t care about what he thinks of you. You take control by setting the rules and the pace, whoever violates his dropped.