My long distance ex(15f) and I(15f) recently broke up. We had been together for 1 and a half years. We broke up due to my immatureness earlier in the relationship that she could not get over. Keep in mind we were only broken up for 2 weeks now. We agreed to be friends after we ended things but yesterday, I was having an anxeity attack that was due to my over thinking and overwhelming emotions. She made it worse because she told me she went on a date with someone. This hurts because I was always scared this would happen during our relationship, these things she would always comfort me and reassure me on that would never happen. These things make me over think because she can be doing stuff with some guy that we could have only dreamed of doing together. The day prior, we got in a conflict because I she would bring up past things that I already owned up to and apoligized for and Im changing for the better. Now, Im blocked on almost everything besides snap. I made my one of last efforts this morning by texting her to unblock me and that I miss my best friend and I dont want us to be out of each others lives just yet. So now, I’m thinking if she did that out of spite because she texted me “this is what you get,” “you hurt me more than this is hurting you,” and she was just really angry with me.
TL;DR: My ex(15F) just broke up with me (15F) after 1 and a half years together. We had many ups and downs but Id never think it would lead to me being blocked on almost everything. She went on a date yesterday even though we broke up 2 weeks ago. Everything is still fresh. My mental healthy cannot survive this.
Did she do this out of spite? How do I move on? Is this something worth to continue fighting for? If you are still here thank you forr listening :D!!!
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Your ex broke up with you. That means it’s over. A relationship takes two yeses and this is one yes and one no. One no means move on.
You are both 15 grow up
At 15 a 1.5 year relationship means you’ve spent a tenth of your life and almost all of your teens together, it will definitely seem like the end of the world. Time heals everything, there’s absolutely no better time to focus on yourself and move on.
I think you should give up the idea of being friends, at least for now. Once you have fully separated, it will be easier to begin to move on from your feelings. If, after you’re totally over it, you feel like you’d still have a friendship, then you can see about starting that process, but trying to go directly from romantic relationship to friendship is a doomed proposition.
Block her and cut all contact. I know it seems like the end of the world right now but it will get better in time. And you’ll have plenty more relationships of far more significance in the future.
I think you would benefit from some therapy. Can you speak to your parents?
Your 15 bro. Probably your first love. I understand the moving on part. It’s hard to do especially when you still love the other person. Just be young and dumb and have some fun. You will find another love. Just have to try and see what else is out there.
I know it hurts a lot but I wouldn’t keep contacting her or trying to stay in her life right now. You need to heal and being in contact is like opening the wound again. I know it hurts really bad now but it will lessen over time. Just work on yourself and focus on your life and new people will come along.
As someone who recognizes this situation due to it being derived from a relationship my companion—who I will not name drop—used to have, you should not being posting your story while purposely forgetting the aspects that caused them to move on. Just 5 months prior to this post you still mistreated my friend. (Yes I have kept track since mid relationship bc you’ve been victim blaming far before now) Though I cannot fully explain what was going on as I only know selective moments from both ends, throughout that relationship you have been unsupportive, ignorant, as well as narcissistic.
Yes it had only been two weeks since the breakup and it may seem unfaithful to start seeing someone at that time but keep in mind that they felt pressured to stay with you ever since you threatened to harm yourself because of them. This behavior was the downfall of your relationship.
!! Please do not slander my friend for sharing what seems like personal issues because I was one of the few people to actually know and comfort them !!