I’ve been trying to figure out why I can’t socialize for so long and now I’ve finally figured it out: My mind is incapable of spontaneous thoughts. Like i’ll be sitting in a group of people and I will literally have nothing to say, I won’t be nervous, won’t be anxious, I’ll just sit there and literally have nothing to add. It has been this way my whole life, I’ve simply never had anything new to talk about. It wasn’t just like this for social settings, it’s also been like this for school work, doing art. I simply cannot make up something new with my mind. I wish I knew what was wrong with me.
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Try using a random word generator and making associations. Does the word “dog” make you think of anything? Breeds, taking care of a dog, chew toy, dog food, dog names, etc.
Spontaneous thought is uncommon. You need inspiration. In conversations, that means listening and making these associations. If somebody mentions their dog, you could ask them the breed, how much time it takes to take care of one, what the dog’s name is, etc. Or it inspires a silly story you have about when you went to the store to pick up dog food.
I follow this for the most part—I can never remember what I did the last week, but if you mention something I did last week, I’ll be able to relate to it immediately.
If you are staring at a blank canvas, it’s understandable to struggle.