How did you overcome the loss of someone who was an important part of your life?

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1. I didn’t. I just let time pass and “made room” for the pain.

2. You don’t. They are always a part of your life. You allow yourself to grieve for what you’ve lost, and then over time, the overwhelming emotions start to calm.

3. I lost my childhood dog after 11 years, it was really hard to get over his loss but I just thought he is in a better place now with his best friend and he knew that I loved him so much. I’m still not over it though, I cry here and there but I managed to calm down a little bit.

4. I never did. They stayed apart of me someway or somehow. That type of loss doesn’t ever go away, it stays with you until death.

5. Grief comes in waves, and in different ways for everyone. For me, when I have moved through the initial loss, I try and focus on the good memories rather than only thinking about the loss.

   Our loved ones won’t always physically be with us, but they will always be in our hearts and minds.

6. I didn’t overcome it, but I learned to live with it. And eventually I learned to live with it, savor the connection and love, and build a different life than the one we had imagined.

7. I went through all the grief together with my father. We talked a lot about my mother, valued stories about her, made a huge collection of our favourite photographs of her, talked to other people close to her….

   Part of the pain will never leave, but the emotions get more calm, and it’s just a numb pain staying in the back of your head.

8. grief. processing. it’s a process.

9. I don’t think you ever exactly overcome it, but in time it become softer, the memories bring a smile to you face instead of a rush of grief. I still cry over people when I think of them and I still have my moments where it is raw as the day it happened, but most of the time I smile and think of all the wonderful things I experienced with them instead of the things I will never be able to.

10. I don’t think you can ever overcome the loss of someone important. For me, I just learned to live around the pain. For a while it was very difficult, I would breakdown even at the slightest mention of them. But overtime I have learnt not to focus on the life I lost, but to only focus on the amazing life they lived and the memories I have of them. I have learnt that somehow grief makes you stronger and turns you into a new person, at least in my case it did.

11. I haven’t. A part of me left when my mum passed and I’ll never get that part back again. I think as time goes on, you learn more and more coping mechanisms. The pain never diminishes, you just learn to live through it. At times, regardless of how long it has been, a grief wave can completely and utterly floor you. But these times tend to become less frequent as time passes by.

    Loosing someone you love will forever change you as a person.

12. You never get over it, you heal from it and learn to deal with the loss. Everyone does it differently.

13. Time. My life grew around the pain. I learned how to live without them.
    Sometimes I have really bad days and I’m still sad about it. Mostly I feel okay. All the time, I miss them.

14. You don’t ever get over it. It just gets easier with time.

15. Also never did, I’ve learned how to live with the pain and how to still feel lucky that I had privilege to spend time with them on this planet.

16. My mom died when I was 20. Since I was an only child with an uninvolved father and grandparents, I carried that loss alone. My college offered free grief counseling, which gave me a place to talk about it. I ended up moving far away because where I grew up didn’t feel like “home” anymore.

    My favorite explanation of grief is: Imagine the loss is a ball in a jar. At first, the ball takes up almost the entire jar. It’s so big, you can’t do anything but think about it. You’d think the ball shrinks and dissolves as you “move on” but it’s actually the jar that grows around it as time passes and you create new memories and experiences. The grief is still there, but it takes up less space.

17. I’m not sure you do. My husband died almost six months ago, so I know it would have taken longer than that in any event, but my grief therapist tells me that I won’t get over it I’ll just learn to live with it.

    I hope you’re doing ok today 🤍