girls!! how do you prepare for sex?

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1. Throughout the week I take ashwaganda and fenugreek supplements for natural lubrication. I also drink cranberry + pineapple + apple cider vinegar which I’m not sure if it actually makes you taste better but my whole body definitely feels better after. Then hours before I’m going to see him, I exfoliate for soft lips, brush my teeth for fresh breath, shave and shower with a body wash that matches my body cream and complements my perfume (which is usually something seductive like vanilla), put on some flattering lingerie under my clothes, and I usually come over with my hair down but I bring a hair tie with me to put it up when things start heading in the sexual direction.

2. A nice bath, shaving, doing my skin care routine. If I feel like it, paint my nails. Usually a scented lotion of some kind. My boyfriend likes it when I use the strawberry shortcake stuff from bath and body. 😆

   Doing the things that make you feel your best, because that will translate to confidence, which is sexy.

3. As a guy maybe Im not best to comment but if/when we have a date night my wife tends to go all out, shower, full save (vagina as well) and tends to put on lingerie under her date night clothes.
   Ive discussed this with her, wanting to make sure she wasnt just doing it because she thought I might expect it or something and she told me she 100% does it for her, she feels sexier and more confident in herself.
   My point being dont do something because a guy expects it or you think its what he wants, do things that make you feel sexier, that make you feel more confident or something that makes you feel good. If the guy is interested in you it wont matter if your in last years sweat pants or the latest sexy number from Ann Summers.

4. I second everything other people are saying but one important thing is to play music to hype yourself up. I love having a sexy, confident playlist going while I’m in the shower or something. Of course, its not essential, but I like it as part of the ritual of getting ready

5. Shower

6. i will usually wax, bathe, moisturize and put on a nice outfit that makes me feel really good and confident! i like to make sure my hair is smelling really good to leave a scent in their sheets.

7. shower, exfoliate, shave, foot care to remove the cracks, brush teeth, mints, make up, perfume to match the lotion scents, wear light clothes that don’t get in the way too much lol

8. wash, shave, masturbate.

9. I have exfoliating gloves and I like to wash my butthole really good bc my paranoid fear is that I’ll be bent over and have a dirty butthole lmao so If I haven’t done that very recently before sex I always get those intrusive thought and I can’t fully relax and enjoy.

10. I dont, I just wash myself regularly, optionally enema. And my partner prefers me more “natural”. I feel kinda bad reading abut all those comments about skincare, lotions and shaving ._.

11. I normally clean my room, shower n shave and put on some nice matching underwear. If he’s a lucky boy my red set lol

12. If I have the energy and desire:
    Playlist blasting, hot hot shower, wash condition my hair, shave legs, moisturize, air dry my hair, makeup, tweezing, clean the house, bathroom, arrange my pillows, prep my fan & remote, lighting, white noise machine on, and keep a towel close by. Load of dishes, and prep the kettle & tea. 💜💜

13. A guy’s input here: consider your partner and what the two of you get turned on by, and figure out ways to include that type of thing in your day, before the bedroom. Anticipation / foreplay are great things to mentally psych yourself up, and these things can be way more subtle than making out out, groping and other on-the-nose behaviors.

14. Good hygiene and birth control, I guess

15. I have a girlfriend that would wash her feet before every time we would get back to my house and do the deed. I’m not into feet stuff at all but I think her previous relationships were and the habit carried over.

16. All the things I do I usually do to feel prettier and more confident. I take a shower, do my skincare routine, make sure my hair smells extra nice, use body lotion to make sure my skin is soft, I shave if I feel like it

17. I like to do some kegals, and think sexy thoughts of my man and past sexy times and that gets me wet and ready!

18. I just shower tbh

19. Shower and shave

20. I listen to music that helps me channel what kind of woman I want to be that night. If you wanna be the nasty slutty freaky kind then I’ll listen to my ratchet playlist lmao like stripper songs and I’ll just hella look in the mirror at my body and touch myself. Helps me feel sexy before her even comes over. I wear fishnets chokers heels stripper clothes basically. Or a classier love making seductress thing I’d listen to jazz and soulful R&L while I get ready and wear very sexy deep colors or white no neons or bright colors. And just channel a dominant powerful goddess. So long story short lol I think amazing sex starts first with your mentality and your confidence of yourself

21. My boyfriend likes to lick my pussy and my ass so I use several wet towelettes on the undercarriage to get it ready for him.

22. uh. I piss and wash my nether regions with a wet wipe til I’m clean feeling.

    that’s about it.

23. Be clean wear perfume, drink tons of water, brush your teeth:) basic hygiene and hydration 100% !

24. Before showering, if I feel any need to poo at all, I try to poo. Sex feels better when my bowels are cleared lol.

25. I don’t really do anything. My partner is really into my natural scents and prefers my scent and taste over a wash.

26. I’m in a long term relationship so honestly I usually don’t do ANY extra prep (aside from generally taking care of myself).

    But if I’m trying to feel extra sexy – I like a long steamy bath and then exfoliating from head to toe. The bath helps soften the skin so a lot more comes off when exfoliating, which leaves me feeling like a newborn baby. Then I shave my legs, wash up as I normally would, and use a good body oil to moisturize. I like to take my time with my routine and really massage the oil in, because why the fuck not.

    I also always keep my nails done, wear perfume everyday, and exfoliate once a week, and use a nice lotion after every shower. If I’m feeling spicy I might put on lingerie.

    I don’t think my partner actually cares if I do any of these things and I don’t wanna tell other women they have to have an extensive beauty routine to be sexy because you really don’t. My routine is about what feels best to me and everyone should do as much or as little as they want.

27. By ripping his clothes off.

28. Oh, my pre sex routine is like the best form of self care. I usually start by taking off any nail polish, and cutting my cuticles/nails, and moisturizing my hands. I like to do a hand mask too. Then I take a really warm shower, exfoliate my body, shave every where (if I know I’m going to have sex a day before, I’ll shave the day before), shampoo and condition my hair, moisturizer with a shea butter, or something with a vanilla/warm scent (I really like Brazilian Bum Bum). I use this specific oil that moisturizers around the pubic area, by Venus, and it always makes everything super soft and I always get compliments, and then I have a pheromone perfume roller that I put in 6 strategic spots (behind ear, collarbone, hip bone, ankles, wrists, and towards the upper outside of each of my boobs).

    Brush teeth, light makeup, easy hairstyle, peppermint gum, or mints. Outfit is usually casual, and I pack extra panties if I’m going to theirs!

    Getting ready for sex can honestly be better than the actual sex itself sometime lol.

29. I’ve been living with my partner for 12 years, I just brush my teeth and wash my bits, and make sure the rest of me has been showered within half a day. Other grooming happens as it happens, but sex is sometimes daily so clean is all that’s necessary.

30. Due to my vaginismus history, I’ve got to basically do at-home vaginal physical therapy (with either dilators or sex toys) at least once a month to ensure that sex will still work pleasurably. For many years, I couldn’t have sex without pain (excruciating, not fun pain) because of vaginismus and the physical therapy with dilators took quite a while to make a difference for me.

    This leads me to this sex prep tip: if you ever find sex just slightly painful in the sense that you feel “too tight,” and you find that lubing up a dildo and warming up that way isn’t quite doing it on its own, you may benefit from reverse Kegels. Many just recommend kegels (feels like holding in pee) to tighten the muscles when what’s actually needed is to loosen them with the reverse Kegel (feels like pooping/farting). It’s vital to know when you need one or the other because doing the wrong one can actually make it worse instead of better!