So I (22M) am realizing I masturbate more than most.
I have some more taboo kinks (nothing illegal at all I should clarify) and I really am afraid of them turning into fetishes. Im deeply ashamed of my kinks and I hate that they turn me on so much.
I just want to have a healthy relationship with sex and get away from what I’ve been doing. I really want to be in a healthy relationship with someone and have a healthy sex life for myself and my future partner.
I am having a really hard time with this so any advice/resources would be very helpful
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I suggest a 12 step program. There are two main ones. SAA (Sex Addicts Anonymous) and SA (Sexaholics Anonymous). They are free and will have helped many. There are some difference between the two. One would say masturbation is breaking sobriety, and the other would not.
If you are near a half way decent sized city in the USA, there should be an option to attend one in person – which is recommended. If you don’t live near a meeting place, or in a country where its not an option; I think there may be some online options avaiable.
Regardless of joining one or these groups or not – I do think you will have more success if you find some sort of accepting and encouraging community that is also on the journey.
Good luck and I admire your self awareness and willingness to try and become healthier.
My advice probably isn’t as good as the other comment, but I just found a few new hobbies to do in the time I would take to masturbate. 45 minutes for masturbating? Nope! Now I play piano.