I found pills in my husbands things

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1. Probably to boost his confidence. And now you are going to go and make a big deal out of it and cause him problems.

   Just leave it alone.

2. He’s probably taking it for it’s intended use, and that issue can happen at any age. Leave it alone and let him come to you about it in his own time.

3. I’m 29 don’t have Ed and take cialis both for performance in the gym and the bedroom lol. With company’s like blue chew giving it out like Candy it’s pretty normal now

4. I don’t have ED but it helps remove the effects of stress has on guys body’s. Mentally we want sex but when stressed guys can’t perform. It also helps the recover time so round 2,3,4 can happen. I’d leave it alone.

5. Leave it alone.

   ED can happen and does happen at any age (even in the 30s).

   It can be due to a variety of factors, but it is RARELY (if ever) because of a lack of desire or attraction to a man’s partner. So please get the idea that it has anything to do with you out of your head.

   Men also can have performance anxiety (maintaining an erection and lasting long enough until you climax, or being ready to go for round 2 after orgasm in a reasonable time frame). These kind of pills reduce a man’s refractory period so we don’t have to wait as long to go get aroused after orgasm and keep going to meet our partner’s needs. As a Man in his 30s, I can speak from personal experience when I say that taking the blue pill has given me some of the strongest and hardest erections that I’ve had in my Life, and has helped me to keep going like the Energizer bunny when I have taken it. It can really help build a man’s confidence, especially when he has performance anxiety.

   There are many men who take these pills due to the reasons I outlined above without any medical, physiological (the penis is a complex organ, and can sustain injuries over time), or psychological caused ED as well.

   I would recommend just leaving it alone. If there is a medical, physical, or psychological component to why, then let him come to you on his own terms.

6. I guess people have different marriages so please ignore if this doesn’t pertain to you, but I would talk about it. My spouse and I talk about everything so it would be strange and concerning if one of us had pills and didn’t tell the other. I would just bring up what I found (no accusations unless you feel there’s more to the story I’d say that) and then listen to what he had to say. When I say concerning, I mean I’d be concerned that they felt they had to hide something from me, and Id want to open up space and reassure them I’m a safe space for them.

   But I’m seeing from the comments this isn’t the norm…so whatever feels right for you and your marriage. 💜

7. He is stressed and still wants to satisfy you. ..but don’t ask him about it..adding. more stress in his life. In fact try to reduce having sex to once a week so he can relax a bit. Maybe taking these pics is also another stress. As men we always act like we are ok .

8. You should absolutely talk to him about it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with taking ED pills, but if it involves your sex life, there should be no secret keeping. He’s not a child, and he needs to be open with you about medication he’s taking, especially considering risks associated with it.

9. All these comments say leave it alone are bizarre.

   You husband is keeping something important secret from you. Thats a no no for me, whether it is medical or otherwise I would expect my partner to keep me in the loop with things like this.

10. I googled it too. This isn’t a prescription medication or even OTC med. It’s a supplement. Pretty common set of things to boost testosterone and an amino acid that is thought to help blood flow. Since it’s just a supplement, it might even just work as a placebo. But it doesn’t matter if the goal is to boost his confidence as long as it meets that goal.

11. Hey! ED can be caused by so many things, not all of them permanent. High stress and anxiety can cause issues, so he may just need some help every iw and then.

    Like others have said, leave it alone. Let him come to you if he needs to.

12. I would bring it up casually. Mention that you noticed the pills when you were looking for whichever paper you were looking for and ask what they are for. Have a calm and friendly tone of voice when asking. Do not mention that you googled it in the discussion or he will feel interrogated.

13. I would be supportive and kind, as others have said this is an over the counter. If this were my partner I would tell him I support him if he wants to go to the doctor for any kind of panels or check ups, and that I find his health important. ED is completely normal, but can also be a warning sign for other health issues, so I would really want my spouse to get a check up — just in case.

14. I’m a wife of 15 years to a hubby who started taking a little something a couple years ago and recently had a little bout of Ed caused by anxiety… please leave it alone. He hasn’t told you. He’s probably embarrassed. If he gets embarrassed it could make the issue worse.
    He is your spouse, but that doesn’t mean he isn’t entitled to some privacy.

15. Viagra is the PEDs of sex. He just wants to do a good job. Just don’t say anything and tell him how great he is.