Both of our SO are working a lot on a big gig rn, lots of OT. We often talk about it and commiserate. I’m [28] and he came after me after I saying what I felt. I basically felt attacked and I thought it was a safe space I could share my feelings without reproach but he was all the sudden like saying I was “attacking someone’s character” and assuming and all this when I was really just expressing my feelings on a situation we are both going through. He just didn’t like what I was saying about his SO, my best friend, who I haven’t really hung out with since Thanksgiving. I said I felt like he was choosing his career over his friends. And he completely lost it. And eventually he said that he couldn’t even commiserate with me anymore. Meanwhile this whole conversation saying he’s “there for me”.
Then why do I feel like he’s not? And the whole time he’s trying to tell me what he did that helped him get through this time and not have to wait around. And I feel he’s just looking at me like this pathetic person who’s always sad. I hardly have any friends and it’s been really hard lately. This conversation just made me feel like he doesn’t understand how bad my depression has been lately and it just felt really insensitive. I just don’t know what to do. I’m decently mad but should I tell my best friend? He already knows but I’m just not sure how much he knows. I’m just worried 😟 I don’t know what to do how do I tell my best friend that we’re not on good terms?
TL;DR
Got into a tiff with bf of my best friend and I don’t know how to talk to him about it or how to fix it.