So I downloaded Hinge like a week ago. I (25F) met this guy (31M) via it. He is so good. Look wise okay okay, but I find him attractive. We have awesome communication skills and he is definitely attracted towards me. He said that. We finally want to sleep with each other so we went to his cotgage yesterday. It was good, we smoked herb. We were trying to have intercourse but he suddenly got panick attack. And anxiety attack mixed with it.
I handled him, I tried my best. But he couldn’t get up. I gave him blow jobs, he even said that I have ruined other women for him. I really liked him and I wanted to do everything to make it easier for him. Like I really liked him.
Somewhere I think that I triggerer his panick attack, we became good friends. But he said he wants to take some time off from everything and he will text me after sometime. I really want to give him some time like really want to but I miss talking to him. I want to see his text on my phone. I was gonna help him career wise also. But now it’s on hold. But I really miss him.
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Give him a few days and text him. Don’t bring up anything that happened. Act like all is good. Lol! Hopefully he’ll loosen up and be good with it too.
U didn’t even do a single mistake,it him who must tc about his health,u should not be giving him head to cool him
If he needs time away it’s likely because he feels like if you spend enough time with him while he’s in this state that you’ll get sick of it and leave. So reassure him that you’re not judging him and that you aren’t less attracted because he has this problem and you want nothing more than to be with him and there for him regardless of what emotional state he’s in.
I’ve been there, and (in my opinion) being so available, like you’re always up for anything, can scare someone that doesn’t want to feel overprotected and/or overwhelmed..
After that episode, he might be ashamed or feel bad.
Try new activities or courses that make you feel happy and that will renew your energy, and if he feels even a little sparkle, he’ll come back.
Like a week ago? Then started talking and you’re already sexual with him? Sounds like you both need serious mental help. Honestly, you sound easy. He sounds like hard work. Honestly, he wouldn’t return if he did get hard for you. Men don’t want a woman who opens her legs so easy. Not judging you, just stating how most men feel.
You aren’t wife material so he probably had an anxiety attack and panick attack because.
1: he didn’t expect it to go like that and doesn’t want to be accused of S/A.
2 he mentally said to himself you aren’t his type.
Try keeping your legs and mouth closed next time.
It might help. If it doesn’t I have no idea.
But me personally if a woman wanted to be sexual with me within the first week or 2 of talking. I’d ask her to take a test.. infact I’d probably just message explaining why I’m not interested them instantly block her. Maybe that’s why I’ve been single a while. I’m not interested in any of this dirty let’s meet and fuck behaviour. It’s disgusting.
You downloaded the app a week ago and already did a date. Wtf. Well I really feel like killing myself now, is it really that easy? Its been over two years for me, no one within 30 miles of me is even available. I’ve never gone on a date.
Look… call me whatever y’all want but what I’m gonna say will probably hurt some feelings. idk what you look like. I do know a little about men and I know alot about drugs and alcohol. I mean first thing first, the more attractive you are the easier it is for men. Drugs and alcohol do not have a very friendly effect on this problem no matter how good you look.
He needs to stop smoking weed if he gets panic attack from it. Rookie mistake.