I’m (30m) and I’m looking for a wife and I don’t want to freak out a wonan and scare her off but it’s something I know I would eventually have to tell once I start dating but how soon is too soon to tell and how late is to late because I feel like if I wait too long, it would feel like I was lying about it The good news is it’s blood cancer the kind that’s not going to kill me or shorten my life with this treatment, and the treatment will not prevent me from having children
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When you get serious you need to tell her about a chronic illness. Not until you are ready to be in a relationship.
Personally I’d mention it before the first date. There’s no reason it should scare her off. I told my husband I was being treated for something serious (not cancer) when we were still just talking on an app, and he responded by telling me about his experience with cancer (which DID leave him sterile, and I still dated and then married him). It wasn’t a big deal at all.
Don’t call it cancer just describe it for what it is and what it does and what it means.
You have a chronic medical condition that’s very treatable. Tell her by 2/3 date. Before it becomes to serious but after you’ve gotten to know each other a little.