I started this job about a month ago. There is only about five of us at this job. This cute guy will say “hey” and talk to everyone except me. He has only talked to me once a couple days ago and he was just asking what we are supposed to be doing. Does he not like me? I don’t talk to him either. When I’m getting my stuff ready he always seems to stand next to me. I just ignore him. One time I was on the computer and he was kind of looking to see what I was doing. If he’s walking behind me I’ll walk faster to get ahead of him.
Today I was throwing trash out. One of the bags fell off my trash can when I was taking the cans outside. He went outside like a minute later and was like “you dropped one of the bags.” I was in a bad mood and yelled “what?” at him. He avoided me after that. I feel like I screwed up my chances of possibly going out with him. He’s already an extremely sensitive guy to begin with.
What do I do now?
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Tell him you like him. You won’t, so talk to him next time you see him, or when he stands next to you. Maybe find a time to do the weird standing thing to him too lol. If he’s doing cause he likes you, I think he’d pick up your doing it cause you like him.
Best method though I’d say would be to find out his social medias, and add him on them. You can make up that his acc was recommended to you if he’s weird about it. Then, wait for a ig story that’s a good opportunity for a subtle flirt, and fkin go for it homie. Or you could even subtle flirt on a pic.
EDIT: DO NOT ADD HIM ON ALL HIS SOCIALS THO LOL. Gl fren.
Why not just be friendly to him at work?
A simple “Hi sorry i was rude towards you the other day” would do wonders.
“does he not like me?”
* Stands next to you
* Checks to see what you’re up to at the computer
* Stays out of your way after you yell at him
Your actions:
* Not talking to him
* Ignoring him when he’s next to you
* Walking faster to get away from him
* Snapping at him when he went to talk to you
I’d say ignoring him, getting away from him and not talking to him send big signals of wanting to be left alone. My guess is he hasn’t spoken to you as much because of your other body language cues (eg staying away from him) that makes him go “she must not like me”. The yelling at him was just the final moment of “ok she doesn’t just *dislike* me, she must *hate* me”.
If you don’t want someone to think you hate being around them, I recommend:
* Not running away from them.
* Not ignoring them.
* Talking to them whenever you want to say something. (Waiting until spoken to is a losing gambit if both people are like this).
* Apologizing to someone when you snap at them.
He probably is into you, but since it’s a workplace, he doesn’t want to be considered a creep. Or harassing. So he avoids talking to you, in order to not give you any signals. You will have to be the one to start things with him. And one rude word shouldn’t be an issue, as long as you tell him you’re sorry.