So my bf(22) and I (24F) have been together nearly three years and love each other very much. There’s only one hiccup…I’m a virgin and it’s been difficult (and quite embarrassing to say the least) trying to figure out how to have sex because it is very painful for me. Ladies, if you could help with any advice on how you overcame it and men any tips for my bf would be wonderful, thank you ☺️
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Sex doesn’t always have to be penetration. Try using lube and lots of if necessary, try inserting fingers and playing with getting super turned on BEFORE trying to insert anything into your vagina. Give it a few goes. If nothing works and you’re still in pain, go to the docs. It could be fixable. You might just need a bit of professional help x
Sex generally shouldn’t hurt, and in most cases the reason it does is due to the girl not being turned on enough (mostly due to a lack of foreplay). Ofc there are some instances where this is not the case, but in most cases it’s due to this (since when a woman becomes increasing aroused the vagina increasingly self-lubricates).
So mainly I’d say to engage in more foreplay (kissing, caressing and exploring your body etc at least 20 minutes) and make sure you’re (both) really in the mood. Low lighting can help, quietness and making sure you won’t be disturbed.
Hope this helps.