We’ve only had one very passionate night together (very early in our relationship) but he’s like, suffocating between my thighs and not hitting my clit at all. Every other department he’s wonderful in but his oral game needs some work. He even enjoys it so I have no idea why he’s not good at it.
Suggestions?
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Communicate. If he’s not touching your clit, you need to show him where it is. Tell him if you want something faster, slower, harder or less pressure. Tell him if you prefer short links or long strokes from his tongue.
Just.. Tell him, really. I’m sure he would be much happier to see you having a good time considering he’s already enthusiastic about giving oral.
Talk. To. Him.
This is a skill.
It needs practice and education.
Humans have only been discussing it openly since the 1990s. Even then, there are quite a few men that expect women to perform fellatio without them having to do any cunilingus. This is not a world that is designed for women’s pleasure. 68 % of men think most women orgasm from penis-in-vagina thrusting alone! In reality it’s about 40 +/- % that ever can.
Teach him.
Stop letting embarrassment, due to generations of parental embarrassment when discussing sex, stop you from improving your sex life!
Communication! Tell him what you want! Even if you think it’s embarrassing, you’ll be able to get what you want!
Yeah you gotta communicate. If you’ve received good oral in the past try to remember what they did and tell him that. If not, or if you don’t want to do this, just encourage/ ask him to switch it up. Use his tongue in a different way, try fingering you maybe. But yeah you’re going to have to talk to him because he probably assumes you like it
Well we can’t tell him for you.
You’re gonna have to sit him down and talk to him about it and what feels good, what not to do, etc.
But he careful how you word things.
Lots of “I” statements, stay away from “you statements”.
“I am not communicating how I like it and where to hit the right spots”
Passive aggressive mode turned off:
I mean… Just give him some direction and what you like and you’ll be fine. Keep communicating in a positive way: “I like it if you do this” or even “move up a little! Oh yes!” instead of “I am not feeling anything”
I guess he doesn’t like to lick pussy.
It’s harder than it looks