My exgirlfriend and I mutually (M23/F21)
decided to break up because we were going through a rough patch and both had stuff to work out. We had been together almost 3 years and it, being the last 6 the rough patch. During these months she asked me to take a break because she needed to take a step back, and wanted to feel detached from me, like she didn’t owe me anything. I was not on board, which led to discussions of not giving way for her which ultimately led to our break up. It’s been now well over 2 months since we broke up, period in which we established NC, and just recently started meeting up. We’ve hooked up the 2 times we’ve met, and we still both have feelings for each other. However, she says she’s not ready to be together again whereas I am. I’d obviously would love to get back with her, but the thought of her sleeping with other people while I wait eats me up inside
I don’t know if I can do this much longer or just move on .
TLDR; exGirlfriend is not ready to get back together whereas I am and don’t know how long to wait
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It’s not about time. Your focus is also entirely in the wrong place, although I’m not going to sit here suggesting you’re crazy for having the fear you have; it’s just irrelevant.
You broke up for a reason or reasons. What were they? Either way, be it during the break or break up, what was done to fix those issues?
Logically, the answer is that nothing was fixed. So outside of not wanting her to hook up with other guys, what makes you ready? What makes your relationship healthy? Why will it work this time around?
We were both in bad spot in our life, and I had a lot of stuff to work out that hindered the relationship. As for now, I’m strongly working through it because I want to be back together and leave those issues in the rear view. However I am bothered by the idea of while I’m working on myself to be a better boyfriend in the future, she’s with other guys. So I don’t know how long I can wait for her to make up her mind
She is not interested i. A relationship with you and basically using you as FWB.
If she is meeting with others – then you should know that you need to stop “hooking up” with her and brake formally up.