I noticed that I am too trusting of people. I get blamed if I get taken advantage of. I am a sort of people pleaser and think I don’t deserve good treatment because in the past I had to fend for myself and I never felt accepted by others in different spaces. I always have an underlining need for acceptance from people I meet. I want to feel included and respected. I want to feel wanted.
I tend to be over optimistic with other people about who they are. I believe in the best intentions of anyone. Because I projected my own values onto others and get disappointed when they aren’t as dedicated as I am.
I understand this is a somewhat long text. Thank you for your time 🙂
I hope I can have advice from people outside of my known circle of peers.
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Well, I don’t like telling people what to do, so here’s what I do instead. My number 1 rule is: I gotta be okay before I can do anything for anyone, if I so desire. Rule number 2: treat myself like I’m my own best friend. Nothing wrong with taking good care of yourself. Rule 3: somebody elses problem is never my cross to bear. You can support them and give them advice if called for, keeping rules 1 and 2 in mind. Rule 4: if I can’t change it nor accept it, I distance myself from it; Be that people or situations. Rule 6(last but not least): I’m a human being. I can and will make mistakes.