I’ve had an infatuation of what could’ve been, and he was the last person I had sex with (which was in august) and last night was not it. I just froze, and thought “what am I doing” and didn’t enjoy it mentally. I did have an orgasm but I was disgusted after, and I’ve never had that experience. Maybe I’m finally over him? I do wish I just stayed celibate but you can’t change time. Should I admit I dont feel the same? Or just let time pass? I did send an apology text last night about purposely being bad at oral this time because I wasn’t feeling it (although I usually do)
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I would just let time pass. I had a similar experience with an Ex. She told me she did not love me anymore, yet because I was in my last two semesters of university, we agreed I could stay until graduation. We continued sleeping in the same bed and would have sex too. The relationship became FWB / polyamorous as we both strayed at that time. After I moved out, she kept contacting me and we would have sex. A few times it was with another couple we had had foursomes with. So the romance was gone yet she wanted the sex. It finally fizzled out as the passion was no longer there. I have no regrets, as we broke up on good terms and both of us moved on with new partners.
Been there, done that. The way I looked at it was, it was the proverbial “nail in the coffin” that made me realize whatever feelings had been there were gone and we were *done.* I don’t look at it as something shameful, just another life lesson.