I’ve run into a bit of a problem that I’ve never experienced before. There’s a man I’ve known for several years. We flirt a lot and tease one another but never did anything about it. Until recently. Recently we’ve tried to fuck on two separate occasions and both times he could not relax and get into the moment. He explained that he has performance anxiety. That he’s thought about this for years and can’t do it now. Another part of the problem is that I’m looking to “fuck” and he’s looking to “make love.” I like him and I want to go forward with him, but I feel we’re incompatible. I’m willing to give it another go, but I need it to be very different this time. I guess my question is how can I get him to relax and have fun and how I can make him feel less like a fuck boy and more like someone I care for?
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best thing to do is not to overly focus on the sex and focus on the relationship also befor u go into sex console one another in a cuddle and then slowly enhance into foreplay and then sex, anxiety is the fear of the future so theres something hes scared to happen after or befor he cums so another idea is find out what hes fearful of and then move forward, this is going to take time so if ur really wnating to be in a relationship with him then dont rush him as itll make the anxiety worse. hope this helps. 🙂
No offense, but from the phrasing “I need it to be very different this time”, I think you should just leave him alone.
I think you need to be careful on the make love vs just fuck since you have know this person for a while.. maybe make sure he actually knows you are into him more than just a friends with benefits.
Sounds like you two don’t share the same idea about sex, “fucking” and “making love” are different fundamentally. One of you will end up disappointed
Aks if you can give him a bj. If he agrees your probably in. Less blood in his head so less thoughts and reasonings, he will probably relax.