I’m terrible with people. I have some social anxiety but I don’t even think I can truly blame that for me not being able to make friends, it is definitely a factor, I have been pulled into groups before such as dungeon dragons and other clubs at my University and a club that I continue to participate in every week, but I’m not sure I can actually call any of those people friends. Maybe more positive acquaintances or something along those lines.
I do know that a big part of it is myself I can’t blame ADHD for everything but I struggle with communicating with people if they aren’t in my immediate senses, I don’t really call or text or communicate unless I am communicated with first and often times I will miss that. Sure, there are people that I like and that I like talking to but it just slipped my mind it’s not something to ever pops into my head or that I really think about until days or Weeks Later oftentimes.
And also doesn’t help that I’m generally socially awkward in those chats anyway so it doesn’t really make having me be part of one enjoyable in any way I’m not very active and I am active I don’t really add anything I can’t even call myself a lurker I don’t lurk I just am not present, I’m usually reading a book or drawing or playing a game, all things I enjoy but all things that I think I would do less of it I had more people to hang out with in general, I can’t prove if that’s true or not but I don’t know maybe.
Then when I do interact with people in real life I just kind of do it in a classroom environment or somewhere similar and then never communicate with them again. I have no idea how to ask for someone’s phone number or contact I have no idea at which point it’s appropriate to ask someone to hang out or how or anything like that.
I don’t know what to do I need help.