This question might sounds weird. But really have anyone ever been in my case?
I believe a relationship works when 2 people accept each other’s good and imperfect things.
my imperfection: having trust issue due to being cheated before, made the mistake of reading his messages only to find out he still had feelings for ex when he is in honeymoon phase of dating with me; feeling insecure when he hangs out with his ex as close friend; being an independent individual makes me have the habit to control the situation on my own instead of asking for help (i.e. when we live together I pay all the bills first because his payday is later than mine);
my ex’s imperfections: having a stepchild in a drunk night that he blamed total fault for the mom; 28yo but still depending on his family financial to support the mom raising the kid instead of him sending his own money; not being able to save money & instead still buy stuffs reaching credit card limit;
After quite many heartbreaks, I find his imperfection acceptable & still believe this relationship is worth to move forward. I still want to try to change my bad habit to make the relationship work. But he didn’t think the same way. Even so, he still suffered & cried in our last conversation & even insisted to have my b’day & our 1st date as part of his tattoo to remember about our relationship as an important time of his life when he can feel most happy after 10 years. I’m just totally confused.
Now I just want to make peace for my mind to move on from this. My thinking is that he still doesn’t know what he wants & what can be compromised in a relationship, he and I are not at the same stage of maturity in relationship? Perhaps I should look for a more like-minded person who comes to appreciate my values & accept my flaws?