I graduated in 2009 with a degree in history with some architecture elective classes. Drafting/building models is one of the few things I’ve done in my life where I’ve achieved “flow” state, and I honestly loved the work.
However, after graduating, I decided to basically just pursue jobs that were highly paid, in-demand, and with good work life balance doing work that if wasn’t my passion, I at least didn’t hate. For the past 13 years I’ve done pretty well financially and have a good nest egg saved up.
Despite this, I’ve rarely been happy over the years. I’ve had many hours of therapy with dozens of therapists, and still, I feel like I’m not living my true self. ([My previous post](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMenOver30/comments/zzw85q/advice_for_dealing_with_regret_and_nostalgia/) goes into more detail).
So, on to the change I’m considering: leaving my comfortable Southern college town to move back to Massachusetts, live with my Mom, and apply to Master’s of Architecture programs in MA with the hopes of becoming a designer/architect by 40-45. It’s the first idea in my head that’s got me excited in years, but it would also mean not only giving up a big chunk of my savings and going into student debt for a lower-paid career but also leaving my partner (no kids at least). It would, however, give me the chance to do work I like/find meaningful and also be near my parents as they age.
So, how batsh\*t crazy is this idea?
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I love big decisions!
My thoughts on this one:
– If you’re convinced that the majority of your unhappiness is coming from your career choice, and moving into architecture would make you fulfilled and love this job then do it!
-Moving back in with your mom – amazing for so many reasons and very glad you have the ability do so to return to school
-Savings – Again, not ideal to lose savings but if its pursuing your passion then absolutely you should invest it.
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Life is very short, and if you feel strongly that this is the right passion and pursuit for you then jump in with both feet, burn all the boats as they say and make it happen!
I’m an architect, don’t do it. I also love drafting and building models, but that’s not really what you do in the profession, especially the more senior you get. It’s really just another office job where you are bogged down with emails/meetings/chats/deadlines and are somehow expected to be innovative and creative in the moments in between.