I recently started having sex. The first time we do it, my erection is pretty good, however, from the second time, it becomes harder to maintain my erection. I would say the time in between is usually like 10, 20mins. Im worried of hurting my gf’s feelings because of this. I want to know what it is like for other guys as I don’t have any reference. Please help. I have a lot of anxiety.
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Anxiety doesn’t really help your penis stay up. This it TOTALLY normal penis behaviour. Some people can’t get hard at all for hours after round one. And others are back on track within 5 min.
My advice:
1. Just enjoy other stuff. Penetration with a penis is only a small part of sex. There’s oral, fingers and even toys.
2. Get a cockring. It helps keep your penis hard / get it harder. And it get slightly bigger and more veiny. Very sexy if you ask me.
This is your refractory period. Some men can stay hard or get hard again instantly. Others may take a few minutes or some several hours. You’ll learn what’s normal for you as you go along. Nothing wrong here. Good habits to form are helping your girlfriend get off in other ways when you’ve finished.