I want more attention from my friends

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1. I’m not that good with talking either but you shouldn’t talk about your problems just for attention. You should say positive things instead. Don’t be desperate for attention either as that’s not good too.

2. Don’t try to take attention for yourself from others. Give attention to others and if they’re good friends, they will share it with you. A good friend once told me “the most interesting person is the most interested.”

3. Randomly throw things at them. Marshmallows, empty water bottles, cards, etc. This way they are on high alert and will pay close attention to where you are in the room.

4. Read how to win friends and influence people thoroughly or watch summary

5. I feel what you’re saying, i have been once like this I don’t know why, maybe because it’s because of the way we were raised. But i have the right solution for you, if you could expand your knowledge and always speak in terms of the other person interests i’m sure you’ll they will be hooked. But don’t make it obvious, don’t turn it into a interrogation or an interview, sometimes it’s ok to be silent. Please give it a go and report to me back what happens.

6. Try to find out the root cause. Are you boring? Are you introverted/shy? Are you actually getting attention, but not satisfied and demanding more? Whatever the cause, you can take measures to fix it. You could learn new hobbies, and your friends will ask you on your progress. If your hobby contributes to a topic or theme of the party, even better. Learn how to tell stories and make them exciting even when they’re mundane. If you’re just shy, then find people who like you, this one is tough, and you just have to be lucky. If you’re being too demanding, try to be more reflective and more fair regarding the amount of attention you deserve. Try to reason out why you’re getting the right amount and once you do so, you will understand and be satisfied. W/e the case, hope you figure it out.

7. Honestly focus on becoming a better version of yourself everyday, and have confidence

8. People gave good advice, but there’s something I want to bring up.

   You talking about your problems to get attention might be working against you. Friend or not, people will find it tiring to hear about your problems constantly. I’m not saying you talk about them constantly, but if you do, they will 100% find it tiresome after awhile. They might be afraid to start a conversation, have you talk about your problems, and now they’re playing therapist instead of having a fun conversation.

   Look up the term energy vampire to get a better idea of what I mean.

9. Never go out seeking attention because guys can smell when you’re being an attention whore and it makes you look weird and goofy. You must do things that garner positive attention from you peers like making a lot of money, doing difficult things, buying a car, getting girls etc. Guys respect and want to be around men who do difficult things.