I’m 30 (F) who recently had sex for the first time. I know, late bloomer. As expected, my first time was somewhat uncomfortable and there was a bit of pain, but nothing severe. I didn’t bleed during it, but there was some “remnants” of blood visible in my urine afterwards throughout the day. I also felt pretty sore (especially around my clitoral area) but other than that, I was fine. About two months have gone by since then.
I’m going to have sex again (second time ever) very soon. Hooray! However, I’m a bit concerned that there will still be some pain again. Should I expect there to still be some sort of discomfort? For women in particular, how long was it until you started to enjoy sex without any pain/discomfort?
Lastly, what can I do to better prepare myself for a good time? I’m still very new to all of this, so I apologize in advance for any signs of ignorance.
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A lot of your discomfort likely comes from your partner’s impatience. They might not know that you are new to sex / might not know how to handle someone new to sex.
* Get your motor running hot before you start. Lots of foreplay
* Don’t be afraid to ask him to slow down / go softer at the clit. Lots of guys just hammer away even though a gentler touch is more often what is needed
* Once you are sufficiently warmed up (wet, horny, etc…) don’t be afraid to lube up if needed
* Get him to enter you slowly and to slowly ease his cock into you. Little bits at a time (small thrusts to slowly work it inside)
* Once he is fully inside. Ask him to wait to move until you feel comfortable with him inside
* Once you are good to go, them ask him to start to fuck you slowly and then ramp up from there
this is also the same steps you will want to take if you are with a man with a large dick since accommodating a large change in size can be painful for anyone.
Hope this helps some.
It took me 5 or 6 times to really really enjoy sex… and no, my boyfriend wasn’t impatient, maybe I was. It definitely gets better every time, though. And maybe it’s gonna be alright for you after the second time! I definifely wish you alle the best. Definitely relax and don’t stress about it too much.
The answer is it should be better and will continue to get better in time.
As others have said. Foreplay. Don’t feel compelled to just start with PIV straight away. Lube: Don’t be shy about using it as much as you need.
I am different for average users here, for me it never got better. So eventually I didn’t want to endure it anymore.