i \[M20\] i did sex only 2 times with my gf \[20F\] . i have a uncut dick and idk (need dick review too) so during my first sex my gf bj my dick and it was awesome when i started to fuck her my erection was gone and i was feeling uneasy as condom was on my dick. plus whenever my foreskin is touched or sucked it feels weird and similarly happened when i put a condom on, i am very anxious and nervous and tensed at that time to have long erection but its too short. similarly it same happened 2nd time but i was hard for more time. i love my gf and she is so hot and sexy but im unable to stay erect.
What should i do? and during masturbation i can stay hard for long time. plus these days i have started touching lot of my foreskin. so its getting like its now a less weird. pls get me tips to have fucking great sex next time. and have longer and hard erections.
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Its called performance anxiety. You are overthinking things in the moment and need to relax and learn to enjoy it.
Sounds like you are getting in your head. Meaning your anxiety about it all is making you go soft. Practice makes perfect. Just keep practicing and try to relax and not think about it so much. Also, you need to talk to your gf about all of this. Good communication is key to great sex. Let her know that you are struggling with this. She may be able to help ease your mind.
>idk if it is sufficiently big (need review too)
Do NOT make a penis size post in this subreddit. This will earn you an instant and permanent ban here.
It’s anxiety but it is also something that you aren’t use too. It’s one of the things you have to keep trying and if the condom is acting up, find other ways to mess around. Keep practicing.
I’ve been having sex for years and still ask myself this very question sometimes. Some other commenters will probably be more useful, I just want to reassure you its normal to feel a little overwhelmed by it all.
Here are my tips that basically got me past performance anxiety:
1. Don’t even think about your dick. Put ALL of your focus on
A. Her pleasure.
B. The sensations OTHER THAN your penis. I.e. the sounds she makes, her lips kissing you, the feeling of her breasts and niples etc.
Doing this will not only make sex MUCH better overall but it takes your mind off your penis and allows yoyr nervous system to do its job– which will result in a better erection.
2. Get a good breathing tempo. Full breaths through your NOSE. This also calms your nervous system and helps you last longer.
3.. Tone down the porn– kills your dopamine and serotonin sensitivity. Not good for erections.
4. If you’re worried about size, the subreddits r/gettingbigger and r/ajelqforyou have much better resources for enhancing your penis size and quality than this subreddit.
Need to work it out bro