I (M22) have wanted to be pegged for a long time and I recently told my girlfriend about it and she was surprised but said she’d do it and was kinda excited. We were on winter holiday from university so we said we would do it when we get back. She said that she’s very nervous to peg me because she feels she’ll be “too manly” and that I won’t be able to protect her or anything. I don’t want to force her to do anything but it was very hard for me to tell her I want to be pegged originally (because I was scared) and we’ve talked about pegging in a sexual context but idk if she wants to do it and I don’t know what to do
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Protect her from what?
Have her listen to this: https://peggingparadise.com/podcast-112-for-the-ladies/
Maybe she’s afraid of hurting you. I’ve often wondered if that could be an issue for peggers, since they can’t actually feel what they’re doing inside a guy.
Tell her that you’ll take care of the penetration and pace, and she needs to bring the gear and the lube!👍🏼
Your girlfriend sounds a bit sexist. If she really doesn’t like pegging that would be one thing, but it sounds like she is only hung up on lame stereotypes. You are a man, so having your prostate stimulated is manly. Tell her your bicep will not shrink if she fucks you so you could still wrestle a bear in the wild if it attacks her. (Or whatever she thinks she needs protection from)
As others have said being pegged isn’t going to make you less manly, you need to ask her why she thinks that would change your ability to protect her and talk it through
The main thing is she’s receptive to doing it, so go for it before she changes her mind.
If you’ve never done any anal play with toys etc together then you might want to work up to pegging.
Mine said she’d be up for doing anal play, but as soon as she saw me use a toy a switch flipped in her head and was totally not in the mood for it at all, made me feel like a worthless piece of shit unfortunately, so I don’t think pegging will ever happen with her.
Good luck, and enjoy it!
>She said that she’s very nervous to peg me because she feels she’ll be “too manly” and that I won’t be able to protect her or anything.
This isn’t an unusual response but it says a lot about your GF’s commitment to really outmoded and sexist ideas about masculinity. Personally, if I was dating someone and they said anything like this, I’d lose respect for them, not as a sex partner but just as a person.
Regardless, it sounds like she’d still be willing to try it for your sake but clearly, she’s not into the idea on general principle so it’s up to you to decide if you want to be pegged by someone who’s reluctant (but isn’t flat out saying “no”) but also: you never know what could happen once it happens. Maybe she likes it better than she expected but you won’t know until you try.