Tomorrow I(22F) have a date with a guy I met on a dating app.
The issue here is, he is a self-defined Gymbro, and I’m very much not a gym person. Sure, I eat healthy and such, but I’m really not in shape and I fall more on the “couch potato” category.
We’ve been texting for about a week, and I think we have things in common (otherwise I don’t think we would’ve kept talking), but I’m a bit scared that when he sees me he’ll be put off by my body. I’m not a small girl, and I love my body like it is, I’m very happy with it! But it’s still difficult to ask someone else to be okay with it.
Idk, I’m kind of venting right now, but yeah. Like, maybe we won’t continue talking and it would be okay, but the possibility of it being because he doesn’t find me attractive would still suck :/
In case anyone has read this, words of encouragement would be nice 😬
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As long as your pics represent you as you are then he’s into it. You will be fine either way just have fun!!
As a similar aged male who also frequents the gym, id just say whatever. If he is going on a date with you, he finds you attractive and is interested. Don’t get hung up over traits you’ve only seen through a screen, talk to him for real and just have some fun with it. Good luck!
I (34m) have been a gym bro for 15 years. I can say with full confidence, as much as women would LOVE to think gym bros go to the gym for women’s approval, we simply don’t. We go for ourselves and our fellow gym bros. It has nothing to do with women. That’s his hobby and lifestyle. It doesn’t have to be yours(and vice versa) for you to be a compatible match. Get to know him more be forming that opinion.
There’s a chick in my neighborhood who’s real chunky. Like chunky! But her proportions are just perfect and every time I see her I get a hard on. Like for real. Imagining that a*s juggling on my penis. Yummmm
It sounds like this whole thing will live or die based on any personal connection you have or will establish with him.
If the physical thing is bothering you, you can ask before the date how much of an issue it is for him.
Tell him what you’ve told us here, namely that you’re “not a small girl” and are concerned that, since he’s a gym rat, this might be a turn-off for him. He’ll probably ask “what does that mean?” and you should *definitely* have an answer (which you have figured out in advance!) ready for that question.
At the end of it all, ask him whether he still wants to go out. This is his chance to bail if he has cold feet.
If he still wants to go out, it means that he has given up on the idea of a skinny supermodel.
If he doesn’t want to go, then you and he have saved yourselves the wasted time and expense of a “no love connection” date.