how to deal with your shame?

12 comments

1. Don’t hold any. Stop trying to impress others. Trust me, no one is thinking about you.

2. Just [Shake it off](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dQw4w9WgXcQ).

3. Just [let it go](https://youtu.be/Kjr7US2Z9aY)

4. Depends on

   What am I getting shamed about?

   Who is Shaming me?

   Why are they shaming me?

5. I poop

6. If you lay awake thinking about things you think are shameful, try to think about shameful things of other people.

   Nothing comes to your mind?

   Oh well, that’s also how many people think about yours.

   So try to stop, make the best of it, if necessary own it, and try to move on.

7. Don’t do that thing again

   Do the best you can to make up for it

8. What shame?

9. I’m not sure what you mean.

10. I don’t really experience shame. Some people aren’t gonna approve of you, that doesn’t *necessarily* mean you’re doing anything wrong. Just because someone thinks less of you because of your identity or your interests or whatever doesn’t mean their opinion carries any weight… you gotta ask yourself how *you* feel about it. Is there a valid ethical judgement being made? Is anyone actually being hurt by your behavior? What consequences exist? A lot of shame is misplaced.

    On the other hand, if the shame you feel *is valid* then you have to improve yourself, be better. Don’t dwell on it, but make right your mistakes and steer yourself into a better path.

11. Can’t change what happened, can only try to be better

12. Pull your pants down around your ankles when you pee in public bathrooms. Will make most anything else not feel that embarrassing.