I’m a woman in my late 20s and I haven’t had penetrative sex before. I made a [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/comments/10hg68b/im_a_woman_in_my_20s_i_havent_had_penetrative_sex/) venting about it. But basically I’ve never had PIV, and I’m just overall inexperienced.
I haven’t been able to find someone to really experiment with. I have a feeling it would be much better with a partner that I could get to know over time, who would be patient with me as we learn about each other together. But that hasn’t happened.
I’ve been dating pretty conventionally, but then when I tell a guy I haven’t had PIV before, he either dumps me or ghosts. It’s happened with several different people over the last nine months. Only one of them bothered to have a conversation about it before deciding it wasn’t for him. I still want to be open about it, though, because there are physical concerns, and I’d want to know if I was someone’s first time doing something sexual.
I’m going to adjust how I approach this conversation (the first few times were in the heat of the moment and we kept fooling around until they ghosted me) but I also feel like maybe it’s time to look into other options besides conventional dating.
I still would like a relationship, but frankly, I’m horny.
There are a lot of things I want to explore. I’m pretty sure I’m submissive, there are a lot of kinks I’d like to try, and I’m interested in maybe being with a couple or trying group sex. I feel like on paper, I’m a unicorn. But I’m a little scared to start looking. If I just made a feeld or tinder profile that said “I’m an inexperienced sub, come get me!” wouldn’t that attract the predatory type? How can I be open about this and still be safe?
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You dont need to bring it up so early – that would creep a lot of people out if brought up out of the blue. Wait until you’re closer to becoming intimate and just throw in a “oh hey, i haven’t done this before so please go slow”