We dated 7 months and he was wishy washy and going through his divorce. His ex wife has a new BF so I thought this may be ok. He never committed but seemed into me and we had great dates and sex. We took a vacation and after he went radio silent. I proved and all he told me after like 2 months time is it has nothing to do with me and I was always great and fun. I am totally NC but this still really hurts and how can I not take this very personal. Just wishing he was man enough to give me a better explanation. I miss him and this has given me a real complex.
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>His ex wife has a new BF so I thought this may be ok.
If he’s still not over his ex-wife, it wouldn’t matter if she has 10x new BFs.
Sucks that he didn’t give you a decent explanation, nor a reason why he took 2 months to respond, but I guess it wasn’t serious in his mind.
Yeah, that’s sucks. It hurts to get your heart set on someone who is not emotionally ready to have a relationship when you are. It sounds like that’s what he realized after your vacation. I’d caution you against dating someone who is still married/going through a divorce. It’s a very emotional and turbulent time. People in that situation can latch on to other people in an attempt to feel better, or to spite their spouse, or to feel like they’re “keeping up” if their spouse is already dating. Their wants and needs can change very frequently throughout the journey and what they need the most is time to process and heal.