Some people say sex is overrated for a while, what changes it?

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1. As the relationship gets better, stronger, and closer, the sex gets better !

2. having sex with someone willing to learn

   they know what you like, you know what they like.

   knowledge comes together and the sex keeps getting better

3. Overrated when the person you’re doing it with is terrible at it, because they’re too sensitive to learn anything new to please you and just you mentioning pointers makes them feel like less than a man. But they still expect sex from you at least once a day… it becomes overrated very quickly.

4. Looking at your post history it seems like you have a lot of conflicted feelings towards sex. Also sounds like your ex was rather selfish. I don’t have a super great answer for you other than working on finding a healthier relationship and getting to know yourself better sexually on your own. Probably in reverse order.

   From my perspective sex is pretty amazing.

5. Exactly how I felt after my first time. When I watched porn, I imagined what it felt like for them and expected it to feel like that to me. But when you’re having sex, u r not watching porn and masturbating to it, you are actually there and it’s hard getting out of your head and being in the moment. It’s feels different than u imagined and that can be disappointing. But after a while u get used to the sensation, u get more comfortable and confident and you learn to like it and start to crave it.

6. Sex varies. Sometimes its super hot, amazing and a strong orgasm. Sometimes its more mild and just helping your partner climax more. It really just depends what mood you/ your partner is in.

7. Issue aside…

   It is “common” because this is a sex forum where people come to discuss issues.

   It would be like saying alcoholism is common because you met all your friends at an AA meeting.

8. Sex has absolutely never been overrated for me at any time and most of the time is pretty phenomenal. Sorry you’re going through whatever you’re going through but you should dig deep to find what may be causing you to feel this way and see if there are ways to change it if you care to.