My mom is nice but if she wants something (like me (25F) getting married, having baby), she cries then my dad would get angry, and they both accuse me as not loving them.
I see crying as an emotional manipulation tactic. So I can only cry when I’m alone. I feel like I putting a show if I cry when people are around.
I feel like my life is super hard too, and I have to deal with domestic violence, sickness, living alone, depression, losing loved ones, but I always make sure I self-heal myself. Crying in front of people does not help with anything. It just makes us more things to worry about.
But I feel like I’m weird when women around me get emotional and I’m standing there, looking at the incident and just thinking about it and how to react.
How to unlearn my idea of crying? Any podcast I can listen to?
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Number 1: There is nothing wrong with crying if there is good reason to.
I’ve always used this quote from an anime to guide me on this issue. As long as you are in the reasonable zone, cry your eyes out. No one can be accused of manipulation if there was good reason to cry. Anything else is manipulation. Wanting a relationship and child at your age is reasonable therefore they are not reasonable and therefore manipulating. IMO