My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months. Other than some issues with communication there hasn’t been any major problems. One thing I can see being an issue in the future is his unhealthy expectations on how we should interact with the opposite sex. I listen to his concerns but I’m firm with what I believe is healthy.
I had a baby two years ago and I want to work with a trainer to build my muscle. I had a trainer before I became pregnant and I loved my results. I’d like to work with him or one of the people he recommends. He doesn’t have any female trainers in his gym. He is professional and I’ve never felt uncomfortable like he was doing anything other than what I paid him to do.
My boyfriend is fit and has some equipment in his home, but I have a hard time recommitting when I take long breaks. In the past, paying someone has made it easier for me to follow through. I easily forget my workouts and proper form and need guidance while I get into the swing of things again. I’m sure he will remind me he has equipment and I don’t need a trainer. I’ve mention us going to this gym together so I’ve made effort to involve him. When I explain my reasons for wanting to work with this guy I have a feeling he will ask me how I would feel if he hired a female trainer. I wouldn’t care because I trust him.
I suspect this is will become a long conversation and I want advice on an appropriate way to address the situation. I don’t want to invalidate his feelings, but I’m not willing to budge by accepting his views as healthy.
TL;DR I want to rehire my male trainer but I’m anticipating my boyfriend being unhappy about it.
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> I suspect this is will become a long conversation and I want advice on an appropriate way to address the situation. I don’t want to invalidate his feelings, but I’m not willing to budge by accepting his views as healthy.
You’ve been dating for 6 months only, you’re dating to figure out you’re compatible…. Just tell him that you’re going to train with your old coach, and leave it at that. There’s no need to justify yourself.
If your bf doesn’t believe in men/women being able to be friends, if he doesn’t think his gf should hang out with guys one-on-one….maybe you’re simply not a good match. Keep in mind, you have a child, and a child will be exposed to whatever views your current/future partner has….
Sus