I was talking with this girl the other day and everything was sailing, I was smoother than a fresh jar of Skippy. All is right and then she drops a bomb of a comment on me, “you’re a real player huh?” I kind of just ignored what she was saying and changed the subject. It felt awkward to me, I didn’t know how to respond. I got the number and we spent the rest of the night hanging out but golly I’d be lying if I said that one didn’t stick. Any advice on how to approach this situation next time and or any reframing that I should use to recieve something like that better? Thanks guys
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Are you a player?
“I play with myself most nights, baby.”
Either ignore it, or overexaggerate.
Should have flipped it around “Nah, i’m not a player, but there’s something about you that makes me speak from the heart”.
“Yeah well you know how real of a player I am š Although its been a while since I played monopoly. Are the community chests any good? I forgot.”
>smoother than a fresh jar of Skippy.
You’re a player, huh?
Anyways, I got called out back in the day by women here and there. I owned that shit. “Absolutely! I’m a total player.”
I mean, Iām like the opposite of a player so Iād take it as a compliment to how well I was doing in the conversation. If I was on thar much of a roll I might even make some joke asking if she was willing to play too. But yeah, unless you guys were talking about how much sex you have with random women it probably just means she found you surprisingly charming or that you were trying really hard to get in her pants. I donāt think itās much to worry about.
I donāt play it off. I make sure she knows that itās VERY clear I am just here for the booty.
Now if Iām not there just for the booty with her, then I just say that. āYeah, Iām usually a player, but I see potential with us. Letās see what happensā.
You behave like a player, but you don’t wan’t to be acknowledged as such; so consider prioritizing being coherent, over saying whatever meaningless words it takes to get laid.
Girl, i’ll play with everything but your heart
āI mean I played sports in highschoolā and just smile, silly questions get silly answers
Just reply āgolly Iād be lying if I said that one didnāt stickā and Iām pretty sure theyāll get over it
āIām not a player, I just crush a lotā
1st reframe it in your own mind that being a player isnt a bad thing. That awkwardness started with you & the way you perceived being called a player. She had no problem with it, she was acknowledging you were good. You got a number and everything. If you get called a player say something like “im confident š” in a funny flirty charismatic way. Thats the most I’d get into it since its not important, and focus on what is – getting her to enjoy the conversation, just like you did. Dont overthink it.
āWhat makes you say that?ā
āglad im your typeā ā¢fingergunsā¢
“I love banter. It is a fun challenge for me. I like to see if the women I talk to like a dynamic conversation. In the end, you vibe or you don’t. At least by playing around with conversation, I’m having my type of fun and I stay true to myself.”
“How about yourself?”
āNa, just playfulā. Is the correct answer.
Saying “i was smoother than a fresh jar of Skippy” shows you are a player, or at least you think you are.
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So go make up some more bullshit, “playa”. Next time somebody has your number and sussed you out for the unserious child you are, come up with some more bullshit to show them how much of a playa you are.
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GL